What the fuck does being an amazing bottom even mean?! What is going on in kink that this phrase is… Read more On Being an Amazing Bottom
What if consensual nonconsent didn’t have to be about taking? What if it was simply never having access to a… Read more Playing with Consensual Nonconsent Through Objectification
Everyone needs something to feel safe. Whether or not you’re aware of that and what those things depends a lot… Read more Boundary Basics: What do you Need to Feel Safe?
Sometimes it seems like Pick Up Play gets a bad rap. Whether it’s the puritanical I just need connection with… Read more How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Just Love Pick Up Play
One of the reasons I have more sympathy for those of us on the organizing side now is because I understand a truth that I didn’t before: you can’t really control who gives you authority.
Dirty Dates is the latest Cleis Press produced anthology edited and overseen by Rachel Kramer Bussel. If this is the… Read more Dirty Dates
I wish creating a moment were as easy as dreaming up a fantasy. I’m craving sitting with someone, blindfolded, their… Read more Wishful Thinking
So all that to say, many of these stories tugged at my heart, but Missing Daddy did so in unexpected ways. And I guess that’s the thing that I like about West’s writing – even before I got to know a bit more about the person and the mind behind the erotica. Xan is willing to destroy the fantasy to talk about something much hotter; real life. Play with real pain and vulnerability. Moments of power exchange building on tentative trust. Sex that isn’t afraid of rage and the complicated messy glory of human identities.
So Meatlist. Think about that. Not even Women of Fetlife, or People on FL, but Meat. Actually stripped of personhood,… Read more Humanity, Privacy and Empathy
I joked rather derisively the other night about what I’ve come to nickname the rigger sniff: that moment where the… Read more Why You Can’t Teach Connection