A crucial part of creating a scene with a positive outcome is risk management – doing what you can to make sure things don’t go awry.When we start asking these questions, we can come up with solutions to mitigate the risks with which we are about to engage.
And it is this trust that creates the foundation of epic play; when you and your partner created a container of experience. A container rooted deeply in desire, supported by the assurance that everyone is doing exactly what they want to be doing right now.
Everyone needs something to feel safe. Whether or not you’re aware of that and what those things depends a lot… Read more Boundary Basics: What do you Need to Feel Safe?
If you’ve ever been to one of my flirting or pick up play classes (or, yanno, had any sort of… Read more Awww Yeah – Targeted Marketing!
I’m curious about kink but I don’t know where to start. I know about FetLife – but that’s all a… Read more Q&A Telling a Lover You’re Kinky
I came across a fantastic article the other day that I wanted to signal boost; UN-MEMORIZING THE “SILENCE IS SEXY”… Read more “Silence is Sexy” vs Opt-in Consent & BDSM
It would be nice, wouldn’t it, if our needs matched up nicely with things we’re good at? I realized on… Read more Another Piece Goes Click: Care, Negotiations and Self Acceptance.
Consider that rhetorical question. If you’re reading this, I assume you are one. And that means you need to grow… Read more Are we, or are we not Adults?
Absolutely… something? Labels, much like language work well when there is an agreed upon definition. They help us categorize, classify… Read more Labels – HUH! What are they good for?
AKA: Shit Happens While at TEASE this past weekend I found myself in a scene that got out of hand. … Read more Negotiation Fail