How do I know if my D/s dynamic is a healthy one? It’s a question I get often asked- sometimes… Read more How Do You Know if Your BDSM Dynamic is Healthy?
And it is this trust that creates the foundation of epic play; when you and your partner created a container of experience. A container rooted deeply in desire, supported by the assurance that everyone is doing exactly what they want to be doing right now.
Everyone needs something to feel safe. Whether or not you’re aware of that and what those things depends a lot… Read more Boundary Basics: What do you Need to Feel Safe?
One of the reasons I have more sympathy for those of us on the organizing side now is because I understand a truth that I didn’t before: you can’t really control who gives you authority.
It’s not the first time I’ve been presented these two words like they’re complete opposites of a coin, only one… Read more Here’s One For You: Spontaneity vs Consent
Performance and Kink is something I constantly have trouble wrapping my head around. Call me a philistine, and please understand… Read more On Performance, Inspiration, and Getting the Kink You Want
Before I made the switch over to Sexuality Empowerment Coach and after I was just this girl, who does this… Read more How I learned to Stop Worrying and Love Agitating
It’s been a busy few weeks. In addition to being my birthday, an all night, city wide art festival, thanksgiving,… Read more Q&A – Advice to my Kinkling Self
af·ter·care /ˈaftərˌke(ə)r/ Origins: 1755-65; after + care noun. What happens after an experience wherein you provide some level of care… Read more Aftercare: What You Need to Know, and How to Figure That Out
This past winter I tripped down to Dark Odyssey’s Winter Fire, a hotel take-over weekend in Washington, DC. It was… Read more My Identity is Not a Challenge.