Everyone needs something to feel safe. Whether or not you’re aware of that and what those things depends a lot… Read more Boundary Basics: What do you Need to Feel Safe?
One of the reasons I have more sympathy for those of us on the organizing side now is because I understand a truth that I didn’t before: you can’t really control who gives you authority.
It’s not the first time I’ve been presented these two words like they’re complete opposites of a coin, only one… Read more Here’s One For You: Spontaneity vs Consent
Performance and Kink is something I constantly have trouble wrapping my head around. Call me a philistine, and please understand… Read more On Performance, Inspiration, and Getting the Kink You Want
Before I made the switch over to Sexuality Empowerment Coach and after I was just this girl, who does this… Read more How I learned to Stop Worrying and Love Agitating
It’s been a busy few weeks. In addition to being my birthday, an all night, city wide art festival, thanksgiving,… Read more Q&A – Advice to my Kinkling Self
af·ter·care /ˈaftərˌke(ə)r/ Origins: 1755-65; after + care noun. What happens after an experience wherein you provide some level of care… Read more Aftercare: What You Need to Know, and How to Figure That Out
This past winter I tripped down to Dark Odyssey’s Winter Fire, a hotel take-over weekend in Washington, DC. It was… Read more My Identity is Not a Challenge.
I’m curious about kink but I don’t know where to start. I know about FetLife – but that’s all a… Read more Q&A Telling a Lover You’re Kinky
I’m home from another fantastic conference and, like many people post event, and riding through a period of re-balancing – and… Read more ConDrop – a guide for the solo of us