Presenter Bio:

Equal parts f-bombs and truthbombs, Heather’s experience, compassion and humour creates spaces where people can comfortably open up and can really sink into the topics at hand. She knows that sexuality is fun, messy, vulnerable, and confusing so at the end of the day, Heather is all about helping people have the conversation they need to have – with themselves and others – so they get down to having the sex they really want.

A big fan of both sexual adventure and community building Heather is active in the public sphere of Kink with a long history of organizing munches, discussion groups and educational events. As a sexuality educator and coach Heather also speaks on a variety of sexuality topics for conferences, organizations, and classrooms in her home of Toronto as well as further afield.

Not great at singular online presence, check HeatherElizabeth.ca or FetLife (Heather) for more information and all the blogs.

Current Workshop Offerings:

Plays Well With Others:  BDSM 102

Social intelligence for the delightfully perverted
Approx Legnth: 90 mins

Kink is fun.  Kink is even more fun when you involve other people.   But we don’t always know how best to do that – because it’s new to us, because it’s awkward, because it can make us show our soft underbellies – whatever, we have reasons.

This workshop aims to help you with that ‘whatever’ part.  We’ll cover everyday BDSM etiquette (read the lowest protocol you can still get invited back with), differentiating between creepy vs problematic people, as well as active vs passive consent, different ways people say no and a (potentially) new way of negotiating.

Expect frank talk about the emotional, mental and physical risks we all take when we get involved in BDSM and tips for both sides of the whip on how to minimize them.

Needs:  Whiteboard/chart paper, markers and easel

Bootblacking and LeatherCare

Approximate time: 1-3 hours.  There are so many parts that can taken in and out, it’s really flexible on timing.  1 hour would cover a single activity with demonstration.

Description:  Curious about bootblacking?  Got orders to spit polish until your Master can see their face?  Made an investment in your leather wardrobe and hoping keep it looking it’s best?  Got some cum on your kilt?

This workshop will teach you all the basics plus a little bit more.

Needs:  Whiteboard/chart paper, markers and easel.  Participants should bring the supplies they have.  If they wish to purchase in advance, there is a basic supply list here

Consensual NonConsent: Playing with Edges

Approximate time:  90 mins

Description:   There are so many reasons one might choose to include consensual non-consent (cnc) elements to their play activities or relationship dynamic; so why do so many of our workshops focus strictly on sexual cnc?

This practically focused class features information and discussions covering various ways cnc can appear, how it can add benefit to our chosen dynamics, and the difference between cnc and abuse.  We’ll also cover planning for the unknown, and creating boundaries to keeping your play positive (or positively awful).  Bring a pen and ideas for CNC play you’d like to bring to life.

Needs:  Whiteboard/chart paper, markers and easel

Conversations on Consent

Approximate time:  90 mins

Description:  We talk a lot about consent when it comes to sexuality; but what does that actually mean, and how do we know if we have it?  Where are we coming from in our consent models and where are we going towards?  In this session we’re going to talk about the pros and cons of numerous consent models so that we can start to build our own models of consent,  as well as the risks we all take when it comes interacting with other people and what our next steps might be when things go wrong.

Please Note: This workshops deals with difficult topics that may be trigging for some people.  Active self care as well as compassion for your fellow attendees is encouraged.

Needs:  Ideal – set up for a power point:  projector, screen, speakers and computer to plug my flash drive into.  Doable: chart paper, markers, tape, and space to hang paper.

Crafting Dynamic Relationships

Approximate time:  This is an intensive – 3-4 hours is ideal
Description:  Whether you’re looking to submit for a scene, or dominate for a decade, rich, satisfying power exchange doesn’t just happen. Part Workshop, part facilitated discussion, this instensive focuses on helping you identify what type of power exchanges suit you, how to evoke the dynamic you’re looking to create, as well as ways to handle conflict while respecting the agreed upon dynamics. We’ll chat about the difference in negotiating various relationships; creating check ins/evaluations and handling regrets.

Please bring a pen and some paper – and a willingness to share surely won’t hurt.

Needs:  Whiteboard/chart paper, markers and easel

 

Creating your Sandbox:  Negotiating for Fun and Filth

Approximate time: 90 mins

Description:

Newer to kink? New to negotiations? Been out of the game a while and you feel like you may have forgotten how to do it? Just want brush-up your skills?

This is a Negotiations 101 plus class.  We cover the basics and them some.  The ‘whys’ behind negotiating, different styles of negotiation (plus their pros/cons), and how to handle what you forget to mention. We’ll also cover how to negotiate for unknowns and scenes that push your boundaries. Expect of a focus on negotiating from a place of empowerment and agency, no matter where on the power spectrum you’re playing on.

Needs:  Whiteboard/chart paper, markers and easel

 

Deeper, Harder, Faster:  Pain Processing Techniques

Approximate time:  90 mins

Description:  Find yourself wishing you could play harder but pain is getting in the way? Curious about how a smoother processing of pain can add to your play? Completely hung up on the idea that bottoms ought to be stoic, or expressive, or moaning in orgasmic bliss ALL SCENE LONG?

Babes, let’s talk.

Together we’ll explore up to 5 styles of physical pain processing to see which styles work best for us. Heads up, this class features hands on exercises which can be done solo or partnered, depending on your comfort level. Exercise participation is not required, but is hoped for.

Needs:  none

Mind Mapping Desire

(aka I Dunno, What do you Wanna do?)
Aprox length: 90 mins

Description:  Ready, willing, and yet somehow still not able?    Know what you want, but have trouble getting that part out when it comes to negotiations time?

Let’s face it.  Not playing sucks.  But if the first step in getting play is knowing what you want, how do you figure that out?  In this class we’ll unpacking some of our appetites, figure out the keys to bringing out desires to life and learn the language needed to communicate them effectively.  Bring a pen and paper, this class requires notes, and aims to get you scene ready by the time you leave class.

Pick Up Play

Approximate time: 90 mins

Description:  Not just negotiating 101; this class focuses on moving away from checklists and figuring out how to identify what you’re looking to get from your scenes, meeting and playing with strangers, tricks to speed up connection, negotiating on the fly for casual play with friends, and avoiding imprinting.

In Pick Up Play We’ll talk about how to spot the difference between the nerves of playing with someone new to you verses a red flag, and why active consent makes for hot pick up play. Hope you like getting interactive!

Needs:  Whiteboard/chart paper, markers and easel

Playing with Dirty Talk

Approximate time: 90 mins
Description:  Want that mouth to match your mind?  Wishing you had the courage add more delicious dirty talk to your sex life? Want to play with some fabulous filth – but lacking inspiration? Time to put whatever’s been holding you back behind you and get ready to blush, cuz we’re going there.

We’ll cover: tailoring your talk to any situation, getting comfortable with dirty words, breaking down the formula for serving up some dirty talk without getting stuck, plus some tools to tackle shyness.  Expect lots of laughter and class participation.

Needs: Chart paper and walls space/easel.  Dirty Libs and Serving Up Dirty Talk handout.

Service: a workshop in WTF and why

Approx Time:  90 mins to 2 hours

Description:  Curious about service? Interested in adding it to your dynamic but unsure how? Desiring a completely service based relationship but no idea how to get that? Wondering what the fuck the deal is with service anyways?

Half discussion, half workshop, we’re going to look at the ins and out of what it means to serve, bust some myths and learn how service can be as unique as you. From adding service to your dynamic, identifying when service isn’t serving you, or connecting to service as a solo person – there’ll be something for just about everyone.

Needs:  Whiteboard/chart paper, markers and easel

Facilitated Discussions

Ideal for groups of 5-15, 1-2 hours, can do up to 30 with a co-facilitator

  • Receiving service
  • Spirituality and Sexuality
  • Playing at our outter limits
  • Emotions, Harm and Accountability – what do we owe our play partners?
  • “Conflicting” Identities in BDSM (better to be more specific with actual group, but some suggestions: Feminism & BDSM; masculinity and submission; Anti-Oppression & Fetishism)
  • Finding your voice as a bottom

In Development:

Come Correct: A Prenegotiation class

Creating your own adventure: (not your average) BDSM 101

Here be Monsters: Playing With Your Edge

Beyond Blankets:  Aftercare, Self Care, and Self Compassion

Surviving the Scene Solo