Happy International Masturbation Month! I said I’d be keeping content on topic this month, so BAM: fun ways to mix power exchange with masturbation – beyond no.
Actually…. before we get to the juicy part of this post, let’s bust some myths, shall we? Masturbation doesn’t have to be a solo act, it doesn’t have to be a vanilla act, and it certainly doesn’t have to be a stop gap substitute for any other type of sex. If it has become that start using your imagination and spice things up! Lemme start by offering some help with that. Here are three ways you can add a flavour of power exchange to your masturbation play:
Be the Director:
Blind fold your partner and make them comfortable before you. Direct their actions and activities. Tell them what to take off, where to touch themselves and how to prefer for you.
Ties that Bind:
Using the restraint of your choice, immobilize your partner. The curl up with them and masturbate; never letting them participate. Looking to go the sensual root? Play small spoon and nestle up into your lover. Looking for something with more heat? Face them and maintain eye contact.
You can’t touch me!
If you’ve been looking for a way to get into consensual non-consent play with a partner, this can be a fun and lighthearted first step. The rules of this game are simple; you put on a masturbation show for your lover. They can’t touch you – that is until they feel so moved with lust they have to try; and you’re job is to “fight” them off. Quick note for the super competitive; remove breakables for your immediate area. Back in the day, I broke 2 lamps and my desk chair playing this in my dorm.
I’m sure there’s more than that too – feel free to leave some of your favourites in the comments below.